The Way We Were

Tim and I have been married for almost seven years.  Four years ago, our lives changed when E was born.  It changed again last summer when A was born.  Life is really hectic these days - with our girls' schedules, his work schedule, my part time work schedule always changing, family obligations, etc.  Some days I wake up, then the day is already over.  Weeks pass by, the months change, the seasons blend together.  All the while I am saying to myself, "Slow down, please!"

You see, I miss the way things used to be.  When we were first living together, we'd both come home from work, talk about our days, hang out.  Sometimes we'd cook dinner together (ok, lets be honest, he cooked - I cleaned), other times we'd go grocery shopping together.  Some days we'd just decide to go out for dinner, why not?  Then we'd always end up on the couch together watching tv or a movie.  The key word in all of this is "together".



The days of just "us"

These days, he is gone before I wake up.  He comes home, we all have dinner, get the kids to bed.  Then I have to go grocery shopping, or do the bills, or work, or if I am lucky, spend some time on this blog.  Weekends are generally spent doing housework, yardwork, or seeing extended family.  There is no "together".

I know that making time for each other should be a priority - but in all honesty, it gets lost day to day.  We both love each other - maybe even more now than before - but we will never be the way we were.  Although I love my children more than anything, I miss those days with him.  Even if we are lucky to get a date night, it's usually a quick dinner out or running errands without the girls.  And more often than not, we talk about the girls - our family.

Do you have a busy schedule?  Children?  How do you make time for one another -  and make it count?